This column from the Daily Mail of Britain is so full of truth that I don’t know where to begin:
In today’s heavy-drinking ladette, anything-he-can-do-I-can-do-better culture, the prevailing belief appears to be that what’s good for the gander is good for the goose, too. But is it?
According to new research published last week by Anne Campbell, Professor of Psychology at Durham University, the answer appears to be a surprising no. Indeed, her findings suggest that the majority of women aren’t suited to one-night stands at all, no matter how much they try to persuade themselves otherwise.
Analysing the responses of 1,743 men and women who responded anonymously to an online survey — admitting to one-night stands — she found that 58 per cent of women, compared with only 23 per cent of men, regretted their fleeting, casual encounters with the opposite sex.
The chief emotion expressed by these women was overwhelming regret…
It would appear that liberated women are very much aware that by indulging in one-night stands they are lowering their ‘market price’ in the economics of sexual exchange, and, at the very least, expect a degree of appreciation from a man after a one-night stand which is often not forthcoming.
According to Professor Campbell’s research, it seems that, regardless of today’s relaxed social mores, men really are biologically programmed to sow their wild oats before settling down, while women’s interests are best served by attracting a high-status, longterm partner who will stick around to help bring up the children.
‘In evolutionary biological terms, it is in a man’s interests to impregnate as many females as possible to spread his DNA as far and as wide as possible, but he would be crazy to hook up long-term with a promiscuous partner just like him.
‘How would he know if the children he was bringing up were his?’ says Professor Campbell.
Therefore in a ‘pair-bonded’ society, a woman who shuns casual sex and appears the faithful type increases her attractiveness, or ‘mate value’, as a long-term partner and potential mother to a man’s children.
From the woman’s point of view, says Professor Campbell, unlike males, who are far from choosy, females are subconsciously drawn to the ‘Brad Pitts’ of this world for their one-night stands.
‘A female will go for the goodlooking, big, strong, alpha male with good genes and resources.’
If, however, in the sober light of day, last night’s ‘Brad Pitt’ in fact looks more like Mr Bean, then a woman’s self-respect plummets. As for actually marrying the ‘Brad Pitts’ of this world, a promiscuous woman jeopardises her chances of attracting a high-status long-term partner by giving away her assets too cheaply.
He thinks: ‘If she is prepared to sleep with me so quickly, what’s stopping her from sleeping with someone else?’
The major problem with the feminist movement has been that most of its advocates have insisted that contrary to biology, sociology, and common sense, men and women are exactly alike. While men and women indeed deserve to be treated equally under the law, there are important and obvious differences between the two genders.
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Double Standards Can Be Natural
Take this rhetorical question from the article: “After all, in this day and age, if men can do [one-night stands], why can’t women?” The answer is simple: Society has a vested interest in treating men and women differently when it comes to dating and producing children. Double standards can be natural.
Women are much more valuable and important to the future of the human race then men. Imagine that there are ten people left on a deserted island following a nuclear war that killed everyone else. It would be easier to repopulate the world if there were nine women and one man rather than nine men and one woman. That single man could produce nine children every nine months. However, only one of the men could produce a single child once every nine months if only one woman were present.
Every society throughout time has realized that is important to protect the females’ ability to produce healthy children — without women, there is no future. This is why legal and religious codes have generally been much more strict towards female promiscuity than male licentousness. The human race suffers much more whenever a woman contracts a sexually-transmitted disease than whenever a man does.
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What Women Want
Every guy has observed that women generally go for men who are tall, athletic, popular, and built. Females have a subconsicous desire to conceive children with men who seem to have the best genes because the resulting offspring will have the best chance to survive and be successful. Men realize this fact, and those who know they are very attractive to women understand they can have any girls they want. As a result, they do not need to be nice. In fact, not being nice can sometimes make women want them even more — people generally want what they cannot have.
This is the reason that women complain that all guys are jerks. (In fact, the truth is that all of the guys to whom they are attracted are jerks.) This is also the reason that so-called “nice guys” complain that women only want to date so-called players.
If one looks at the mating process on a purely logical and rational level in terms of what is best for society, then it seems that women should sleep with a sexy jerk to produce a child with good genes, and then marry a nice guy with a stable job who will provide resources to take care of the resulting family.
Of course, I am advocating nothing of the sort. There is more to love, marriage, and children than cold, rational economics and game theory. (To me, it is a highly spiritual part of life.) But I must wonder how often such a scenario does occur. I have seen a lot of women sleep around with bad guys when they are young, and then they marry a nice guy once they are older.
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What Men Want
However, the problem is that men are less likely to want to raise children who are not their own. In the end, most men will marry the Madonna, not the Whore. Women are confused because feminism has told that they have the right — if not the duty — to act just like men in the sexual arena. But deep down inside, women do not want to be sluts. They are not programmed to be sluts. Most women realize on some level that behaving this way is acting against their own best interests.
In many areas, feminism sold women a false set of ideas, and as I wrote in a lengthy essay, society is now paying the price. Whether or not women admit it openly, almost all females want to stable, loving relationship with a husband and children — but their current actions are preventing them from achieving that goal. I believe that the societal pendulum will soon swing from a free-love, Girls-Gone-Wild culture back to a conservative, loving one. Forty years of feminism cannot undo tens of thousands of years of social and biological programming.
Earlier essay: Critiques of Feminism: Arguments Against Feminism Essay
