Considerations

This col­umn from the Daily Mail of Britain is so full of truth that I don’t know where to begin:

In today’s heavy-drinking ladette, anything-he-can-do-I-can-do-better cul­ture, the pre­vail­ing belief appears to be that what’s good for the gan­der is good for the goose, too. But is it?

Accord­ing to new research pub­lished last week by Anne Camp­bell, Pro­fes­sor of Psy­chol­ogy at Durham Uni­ver­sity, the answer appears to be a sur­pris­ing no. Indeed, her find­ings sug­gest that the major­ity of women aren’t suited to one-night stands at all, no mat­ter how much they try to per­suade them­selves otherwise.

Analysing the responses of 1,743 men and women who responded anony­mously to an online sur­vey — admit­ting to one-night stands — she found that 58 per cent of women, com­pared with only 23 per cent of men, regret­ted their fleet­ing, casual encoun­ters with the oppo­site sex.

The chief emo­tion expressed by these women was over­whelm­ing regret…

It would appear that lib­er­ated women are very much aware that by indulging in one-night stands they are low­er­ing their ‘mar­ket price’ in the eco­nom­ics of sex­ual exchange, and, at the very least, expect a degree of appre­ci­a­tion from a man after a one-night stand which is often not forthcoming.

Accord­ing to Pro­fes­sor Campbell’s research, it seems that, regard­less of today’s relaxed social mores, men really are bio­log­i­cally pro­grammed to sow their wild oats before set­tling down, while women’s inter­ests are best served by attract­ing a high-status, longterm part­ner who will stick around to help bring up the children.

‘In evo­lu­tion­ary bio­log­i­cal terms, it is in a man’s inter­ests to impreg­nate as many females as pos­si­ble to spread his DNA as far and as wide as pos­si­ble, but he would be crazy to hook up long-term with a promis­cu­ous part­ner just like him.

‘How would he know if the chil­dren he was bring­ing up were his?’ says Pro­fes­sor Campbell.

There­fore in a ‘pair-bonded’ soci­ety, a woman who shuns casual sex and appears the faith­ful type increases her attrac­tive­ness, or ‘mate value’, as a long-term part­ner and poten­tial mother to a man’s children.

From the woman’s point of view, says Pro­fes­sor Camp­bell, unlike males, who are far from choosy, females are sub­con­sciously drawn to the ‘Brad Pitts’ of this world for their one-night stands.

‘A female will go for the good­look­ing, big, strong, alpha male with good genes and resources.’

If, how­ever, in the sober light of day, last night’s ‘Brad Pitt’ in fact looks more like Mr Bean, then a woman’s self-respect plum­mets. As for actu­ally mar­ry­ing the ‘Brad Pitts’ of this world, a promis­cu­ous woman jeop­ar­dises her chances of attract­ing a high-status long-term part­ner by giv­ing away her assets too cheaply.

He thinks: ‘If she is pre­pared to sleep with me so quickly, what’s stop­ping her from sleep­ing with some­one else?’

The major prob­lem with the fem­i­nist move­ment has been that most of its advo­cates have insisted that con­trary to biol­ogy, soci­ol­ogy, and com­mon sense, men and women are exactly alike. While men and women indeed deserve to be treated equally under the law, there are impor­tant and obvi­ous dif­fer­ences between the two genders.

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Dou­ble Stan­dards Can Be Natural

Take this rhetor­i­cal ques­tion from the arti­cle: “After all, in this day and age, if men can do [one-night stands], why can’t women?” The answer is sim­ple: Soci­ety has a vested inter­est in treat­ing men and women dif­fer­ently when it comes to dat­ing and pro­duc­ing chil­dren. Dou­ble stan­dards can be natural.

Women are much more valu­able and impor­tant to the future of the human race then men. Imag­ine that there are ten peo­ple left on a deserted island fol­low­ing a nuclear war that killed every­one else. It would be eas­ier to repop­u­late the world if there were nine women and one man rather than nine men and one woman. That sin­gle man could pro­duce nine chil­dren every nine months. How­ever, only one of the men could pro­duce a sin­gle child once every nine months if only one woman were present.

Every soci­ety through­out time has real­ized that is impor­tant to pro­tect the females’ abil­ity to pro­duce healthy chil­dren — with­out women, there is no future. This is why legal and reli­gious codes have gen­er­ally been much more strict towards female promis­cu­ity than male licen­tous­ness. The human race suf­fers much more when­ever a woman con­tracts a sexually-transmitted dis­ease than when­ever a man does.

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What Women Want

Every guy has observed that women gen­er­ally go for men who are tall, ath­letic, pop­u­lar, and built. Females have a sub­con­si­cous desire to con­ceive chil­dren with men who seem to have the best genes because the result­ing off­spring will have the best chance to sur­vive and be suc­cess­ful. Men real­ize this fact, and those who know they are very attrac­tive to women under­stand they can have any girls they want. As a result, they do not need to be nice. In fact, not being nice can some­times make women want them even more — peo­ple gen­er­ally want what they can­not have.

This is the rea­son that women com­plain that all guys are jerks. (In fact, the truth is that all of the guys to whom they are attracted are jerks.) This is also the rea­son that so-called “nice guys” com­plain that women only want to date so-called players.

If one looks at the mat­ing process on a purely log­i­cal and ratio­nal level in terms of what is best for soci­ety, then it seems that women should sleep with a sexy jerk to pro­duce a child with good genes, and then marry a nice guy with a sta­ble job who will pro­vide resources to take care of the result­ing family.

Of course, I am advo­cat­ing noth­ing of the sort. There is more to love, mar­riage, and chil­dren than cold, ratio­nal eco­nom­ics and game the­ory. (To me, it is a highly spir­i­tual part of life.) But I must won­der how often such a sce­nario does occur. I have seen a lot of women sleep around with bad guys when they are young, and then they marry a nice guy once they are older.

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What Men Want

How­ever, the prob­lem is that men are less likely to want to raise chil­dren who are not their own. In the end, most men will marry the Madonna, not the Whore. Women are con­fused because fem­i­nism has told that they have the right — if not the duty — to act just like men in the sex­ual arena. But deep down inside, women do not want to be sluts. They are not pro­grammed to be sluts. Most women real­ize on some level that behav­ing this way is act­ing against their own best interests.

In many areas, fem­i­nism sold women a false set of ideas, and as I wrote in a lengthy essay, soci­ety is now pay­ing the price. Whether or not women admit it openly, almost all females want to sta­ble, lov­ing rela­tion­ship with a hus­band and chil­dren — but their cur­rent actions are pre­vent­ing them from achiev­ing that goal. I believe that the soci­etal pen­du­lum will soon swing from a free-love, Girls-Gone-Wild cul­ture back to a con­ser­v­a­tive, lov­ing one. Forty years of fem­i­nism can­not undo tens of thou­sands of years of social and bio­log­i­cal programming.

Ear­lier essay: The Bat­tle of the Sexes

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