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Female Hypergamy in the Modern Dating World


July 28th, 2010 · Dating and Relationships

female hypergamy, hypergamyFor all of the so-called advances of mod­ern soci­ety, more evi­dence is sur­fac­ing that rela­tions between the sexes are actu­ally regress­ing back to pre­his­toric times as an unin­ten­tional result of fem­i­nism. Here is a per­fect exam­ple:

About 16 per­cent of Amer­i­cans between the ages of 14 and 49 are infected with gen­i­tal her­pes, mak­ing it one of the most com­mon sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted dis­eases, U.S. health offi­cials said on Tuesday…

About 21 per­cent of women were infected with gen­i­tal her­pes, com­pared to only 11.5 per­cent of men, while 39 per­cent of blacks were infected com­pared to about 12 per­cent for whites, the CDC said. [empha­sis added]

The sta­tis­tics reveal that a small num­ber of (sin­gle) men are hav­ing sex with a large num­ber of (sin­gle) women. The fact that the dif­fer­ence is dou­bled is astound­ing. I pre­sume that the rates of other infec­tions that are trans­mit­ted only through sex­ual con­tact are sim­i­lar. (Dis­eases like AIDS do not count because they can be spread through non-sexual means.)

How did West­ern soci­ety get here? As Roy F. Baumeis­ter, a pro­fes­sor of psy­chol­ogy at Florida State Uni­ver­sity, describes the pre­his­toric, dat­ing past:

Recent research using DNA analy­sis answered this ques­tion about two years ago. Today’s human pop­u­la­tion is descended from twice as many women as men.

I think this dif­fer­ence is the sin­gle most under­ap­pre­ci­ated fact about gen­der. To get that kind of dif­fer­ence, you had to have some­thing like, through­out the entire his­tory of the human race, maybe 80% of women but only 40% of men reproduced…

For women, the opti­mal thing to do is go along with the crowd, be nice, play it safe. The odds are good that men will come along and offer sex and you’ll be able to have babies. All that mat­ters is choos­ing the best offer. We’re descended from women who played it safe.For men, the out­look was rad­i­cally dif­fer­ent. If you go along with the crowd and play it safe, the odds are you won’t have chil­dren. Most men who ever lived did not have descen­dants who are alive today. Their lines were dead ends. [empha­sis original]

Tens and hun­dreds of thou­sands of years ago, the men who “got” the women and repro­duced were those who could kill the most ani­mals for food and pro­tect the tribe against com­peti­tors the best. The men who were weak, small, dumb, or oth­er­wise unsuc­cess­ful did not “get” any women. Biol­ogy and eco­nom­ics also played a role, as Baumeis­ter con­tin­ues to explain:

…most cul­tures have pro­moted pop­u­la­tion growth. And that depends on women. To max­i­mize repro­duc­tion, a cul­ture needs all the wombs it can get, but a few penises can do the job. There is usu­ally a penile sur­plus. If a group loses half its men, the next gen­er­a­tion can still be full-sized. But if it loses half its women, the size of the next gen­er­a­tion will be severely cur­tailed. Hence most cul­tures keep their women out of harm’s way…

Imag­ine this sce­nario. After a nuclear holo­caust, the ten sur­viv­ing mem­bers of human­ity are on an island. There are nine women and one man. There can be nine babies born every nine months. If there are nine men and one woman, only one baby can be born every nine months (and the woman will likely pick the “best” man). Which sce­nario bodes the best for the sur­vival of the human race?

Here is the unmen­tion­able secret: Women are much more impor­tant than men. And this is why peo­ple, through the media, tend to obsess over “miss­ing (white) women” like Polly Klaas, Chan­dra Levy, Eliz­a­beth Smart, Laci Peter­son, Jen­nifer Wilbanks, and Natalee Hol­loway while ignor­ing miss­ing men (as well as women of other races). Just remem­ber the inter­na­tional out­cry over the mur­der of Neda Agha-Soltan dur­ing the Iranian-election protests.

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