understanding politics, considerations

Smart Kids


January 10th, 2009 · Culture and Entertainment, Media and Journalism

RISHON LEZION, Israel — I do not under­stand this reac­tion to a tele­vi­sion show:

Super­model Cindy Craw­ford has banned her young daugh­ter from watch­ing Miley Cyrus’ hit TV show “Han­nah Mon­tana,” because it teaches her to talk back.

The star claims 7-year-old Kaya became rude and cocky after watch­ing the teen hit, about a school­girl with a secret life as a pop star.

Craw­ford says, “I love ‘Han­nah Mon­tana,’ but (my daugh­ter) learns to be sassy from that show. I’ll say to her, ‘I don’t let any­one talk to me like that. I’ll cer­tainly not take it from a 7-year-old in my own house.’”

I have never under­stood when­ever I hear par­ents tell their chil­dren not to “talk back” or have a “smart mouth.” Usu­ally, this rep­ri­mand fol­lows when­ever a kid has vocally pointed out a flaw in the logic or con­sis­tency in some­thing that a par­ent has said or done.

Of course, I do not have chil­dren, and I have only seen the “Han­nah Mon­tana” tele­vi­sion show a cou­ple of times when I have been in the United States. So, per­haps I am miss­ing some­thing. But would it not be bet­ter for par­ents to encour­age their chil­dren to think and com­mu­ni­cate intel­li­gently and log­i­cally rather than pas­sively accept what­ever they are told?

If a child is being dis­re­spect­ful, then that is some­thing that needs to be stopped. But what is the prob­lem with a child observ­ing some­thing intel­li­gently and point­ing it out to his mother or father? I hope that any future chil­dren I have will have a “smart mouth.”

I have also seen that Israel has a com­pletely dif­fer­ent cul­ture in this con­text. Fam­i­lies yell, argue, and debate all the time — about every­thing. As far as I can tell, chil­dren are not expected to remain some­what silent and pas­sively obey what­ever they par­ents say. I will be writ­ing a post on the dif­fer­ences that I have seen between Amer­i­can and Israel in my Let­ter from Israel series, so stay tuned.