Gotcha Pregnancies, Chances of Getting Pregnant on the Pill

Kate Spicer exposes, per­haps unwill­ingly, another rea­son why fem­i­nism has sold women a false bill of goods in a world of a dat­ing ser­vice, dat­ing web­sites, and a dat­ing agency:

The author — sin­gle, 39-year-old Mary Pols — got preg­nant as a result of unpro­tected sex on an ill-advised one-night stand, and the book is all about her emo­tional jour­ney to sin­gle mum­dom, not to men­tion her heroic attempts to forge some sort of rela­tion­ship with the stranger who fathered her child.

In the book, she asks her­self whether she con­ceived ‘acci­den­tally on pur­pose’. The sex in ques­tion, she insists, was purely for plea­sure. But was there a secret agenda at work?

She was, after all, like the rest of us matur­ing sin­gle­tons, in the last-chance saloon as far as her fer­til­ity was con­cerned. True love, mar­riage and all that was pass­ing her by.

Maybe she didn’t delib­er­ately set out to ensnare the guy. But there was no way she was even going to con­sider an abor­tion once she dis­cov­ered she was expect­ing, and now the child is five and the light of her life…

Some of these women approach the task in a far more ruth­less man­ner than Mary Pols did, pur­pose­fully going out and sleep­ing with men when they know they are at their most fertile.

In Amer­ica, they even have a name for this — they call them ‘gotcha’ preg­nan­cies. Many of the women involved delib­er­ately avoid birth con­trol and have no inten­tion of let­ting their unwit­ting bed­fel­low know this.

The cal­cu­la­tions involved in doing that are far beyond my imag­i­na­tion. Get­ting preg­nant, after all, is not that easy. But I have absolutely no doubt that it happens.

The dat­ing lives of older, child­less sin­gles would be amus­ing if they were not sad for women and tragic for soci­ety. But, for all of its past ben­e­fits (the right to vote and all), this is what fem­i­nism hath now wrought in the West­ern world.

From Boston to Tel Aviv, I have seen the same story unfold: Young women in col­lege and later in their twen­ties, when they are most attrac­tive and most likely bear healthy chil­dren, inten­tion­ally avoid seri­ous rela­tion­ships. They are con­tent to go to bars and clubs, hang out in groups of peo­ple, and “hook up” with whomever strikes their drunken fan­cies that night while pur­su­ing their degrees and careers. By the time they are in their late twen­ties or thir­ties, when they finally acknowl­edge that they have bio­log­i­cal clocks, they real­ize that no good guy worth his salt wants to marry a girl who acted like slut for a decade and who is now past her prime. It is a sad-but-true fact: guys in their thir­ties are more attrac­tive to younger girls, but women in their thir­ties are not the same to younger guys. This is how nature works, but fem­i­nism tried in vain to ignore it.

If a woman has never been mar­ried, wants to be, and is in her thir­ties, it is most likely her fault. She has been either: 1.) too picky, 2.) too crazy, 3.) too slutty or 4.) too focused on the wrong priorities.

For all of the pop-culture talk of “cougars” — aggres­sive, older women who prey on young guys — this is an impor­tant sign of an unhealthy soci­ety. These women are aggres­sive sex­u­ally because their bio­log­i­cal clocks are work­ing in over­drive before they break, and men their own age are ignor­ing them (for good rea­son). These are the women most likely to have a “Gotcha!” preg­nancy. Guys, beware.

My prior essay: Cri­tiques of Fem­i­nism: Argu­ments Against Fem­i­nism Essay

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