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October 24th, 2009 · 12 Comments · Dating

dating service, dating websites, dating agency, online dating dating, dating rooms, christian singles dating, singles online dating, new york dating services, boston dating, nyc datingLONDON and JERUSALEM — The Daily Mail reports on efforts to change British drink­ing habits (and includes, of course, sev­eral tabloid-worthy pic­tures that make one won­der whether a dat­ing ser­vice is needed to help these drunk girls):

Such scenes are not uncom­mon, which is why Cardiff — one of the country’s worst cities for binge drink­ing — has just banned booz­ing on the streets.

The crack­down is aimed at late night rev­ellers, tar­get­ing rowdy hen and stag par­ties and gen­er­ally try­ing to make the streets safer after dark.

Police can use the new pow­ers to con­fis­cate alco­hol or arrest any­one who defies them.

The ban has been a suc­cess in tri­als in small areas but will spread across the entire city in time for Christ­mas and the New Year.

Yes­ter­day it was hailed as a big step towards ‘reclaim­ing the streets’ from drunken yobs.

Cardiff Cen­tral MP Jenny Willott said: ‘Late night alcohol-fuelled crime and anti-social behav­iour is a huge prob­lem on the streets.

Peo­ple deserve to have a night out with­out the fear of intim­i­da­tion or fac­ing vio­lence as a result of exces­sive alco­hol consumption.

This ban should help the law-abiding and respon­si­ble major­ity to reclaim the streets.’

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When I lived in Lon­don in 2001 and worked as a bar­tender at the Zet­land Arms, I observed that British peo­ple drink a lot — a lot more than your aver­age Amer­i­can. But it was still within rea­son­able lim­its. Every night, the reg­u­lars — a friendly-but-sad bunch — would arrive after work and drink pint after pint while watch­ing sports. Then they would leave for home late at night and return the next evening.

Later in the evening, the drunk girls would arrive. Since pubs had to close at 12:30 a.m., they would drink a lot and then move to a club or hang out on the streets. (It is legal to drink out­side in coun­ties includ­ing Britain and Israel.) But I rarely saw any prob­lems. The clos­est I ever got was when I took the drink out of the hand of a drunken Scots­man because I was angry and he refused to leave at clos­ing time. Luck­ily, the man­ager came over and calmed him down. (One les­son of bar­tend­ing in Lon­don: If you want to befriend a Scots­man, men­tion the film “Brave­heart” in a pos­i­tive way.)

But, sadly, it seems that things have become much worse:

…the pro­por­tion of women who binge-drink almost dou­bled between 1998 and 2006 and is now at 15% (men who binge-drink increased by 1% to 23%). How­ever, the pro­por­tion of 16– to 24-year-old men binge-drinking decreased by 9% since 2000. Researchers also found that whilst fewer chil­dren are drink­ing, those that do drink are drink­ing much more than they did in the past.

Vio­lent crime by youths is also an increas­ing prob­lem. If the reports are cred­i­ble (I have not been to Britain since 2001), then Eng­lish cities are deal­ing with mobs of drunken, vio­lent youths every night.

If you want to see the future of a coun­try, look at its young peo­ple. Great Britain, once known as the eco­nomic, cul­tural, and fash­ion cap­i­tal of the world, seems to be crum­bling. I first real­ized this when for­mer British Prime Min­is­ter Tony Blair started giv­ing speeches sev­eral years ago defend­ing the very idea of the coun­try itself.

The still-unanswered ques­tion fac­ing Blair in the 1990s was: What does it mean to be “British” as opposed to “Eng­lish,” “Welsh,” or “Scot­tish”? The United King­dom is a polit­i­cal entity cre­ated through con­quest that has rarely, if ever, had a col­lec­tive sense of iden­tity. Blair tried, unsuc­cess­fully, to brand the coun­try as “Cool Bri­tan­nia.”

The British Empire col­lapsed after World War II, and the British peo­ple never quite recov­ered sub­con­sciously as the United States, a for­mer colony, became the new leader of the free world. Decades leader, the British peo­ple viewed Blair as George W. Bush’s lap dog in the run-up to the inva­sion of Iraq. (In geopo­lit­i­cal terms, Blair could do lit­tle else.) It was a con­fir­ma­tion of the global humil­i­a­tion that the British peo­ple have been feel­ing after cen­turies of power and influ­ence had disappeared.

In recent years, Scot­land and Wales formed their regional par­lia­ments and became more autonomous. The cur­rent prime min­is­ter, Gor­don Brown, is a Scot and now deeply unpop­u­lar. It is indeed pos­si­ble that Great Britain will cease to exist in the com­ing years. As the coun­try devolves, it might also lose sov­er­eignty to the Euro­pean Union and the euro.

Cul­tural divi­sions and eco­nomic con­di­tions are also tear­ing the coun­try apart. Decades of mass immi­gra­tion have caused many Brits to feel that their coun­try is no longer “British.” The most-popular, national food is now seen as chicken tikka masala rather than fish ‘n’ chips. (One for­mer coworker here in Israel moved here even though he is not a Jew because he said that his coun­try no longer exists.) Rad­i­cal Mus­lims in Britain con­demn democ­racy, want to impose Shari’a law, and have plot­ted ter­ror­ist attacks. Anti-Semitism is sky­rock­et­ing (see here and here). Young men are becom­ing more apa­thetic and will­ing to live with their par­ents as well as on the dole.

The most sig­nif­i­cant exam­ple of the neg­a­tive feel­ings held by Britons was the recent inclu­sion of Nick Grif­fin, the leader of the far-right British National Party, on the polit­i­cal, panel-discussion show “Ques­tion Time.” Both jour­nal­ism and the free-market are per­fect bell­wethers of cul­tural trends. Com­pa­nies, even media ones, must tai­lor their prod­ucts, ser­vices, and mar­ket­ing pitches to pre-existing trends in soci­ety. Jour­nal­ists, who ide­ally have their fin­gers on the pulses of peo­ple, decide which views are rel­e­vant to a the dis­cus­sion of a given topic. When the BBC, the standard-bearer of British jour­nal­ism, decides that a per­son like Grif­fin is suited to a seri­ous polit­i­cal dis­cus­sion, that is a clear indi­ca­tor of what a sig­nif­i­cant seg­ment of soci­ety is feeling.

In the the­ory of Alexan­der Fraser Tytler, Great Britain may be near­ing towards the end of the life-cycle of all nations and empires as a result of all of these trends and feel­ings. With all of these cul­tural, polit­i­cal, and social prob­lems in the sub­con­scious minds of drunk girls and guys, is it any won­der that they seem to have lost hope in the future? With­out any opti­mism, they turn to alco­hol and vio­lence out of nihilis­tic despair.

One of my favorite 1970s-era bands is the Moody Blues, and I think their fol­low­ing pop-rock song from 2000 is an apt descrip­tion of British malaise:

We’re on a run­away train, rolling down the track / And where it’s take us to, who knows where it’s at / But if we hold together, we can make it back / For an Eng­lish sunset

And I’ve decided I can live with humil­ity / And the sad decay / ‘Cause that’s the Eng­lish way

We keep the faith alive in every thing we do / And at the end of the line, we still keep com­ing through / And though it’s sad and sorry, what else can we do / It’s an Eng­lish sunset

And I’ve decided they can wait for the requiem / And take it day by day / ‘Cause that’s the Eng­lish way

As some­one who has loved British cul­ture since he was a child, I write this post about these unfor­tu­nate drunk girls with extreme sad­ness. Still, I fear that the same atti­tudes are affect­ing behav­ior in Israel, specif­i­cally in Jerusalem. As Jerusalem Post edi­tor David Horovitz notes:

Any­one with more than pass­ing knowl­edge of the atmos­phere in cen­tral Jerusalem will be aware that the heart of our cap­i­tal city is rapidly becom­ing a late night no-go zone.

Clus­ters of vio­lent youth rule and roam the streets, armed with knives and with the beer and vodka bot­tles they’ve emp­tied, pick­ing fights with unsus­pect­ing victims.

Of course, the police are not solely to blame for the deep­en­ing cli­mate of intim­i­da­tion and vio­lence. As [Pub­lic Secu­rity Min­is­ter Yitzhak] Aharonovitch and Israel Police Insp.-Gen. Dudi Cohen have fre­quently observed, ours is becom­ing an increas­ingly vio­lent soci­ety, more and more kids are now car­ry­ing knives, and the response needs to be found, at least in part, in bet­ter par­ent­ing and bet­ter edu­ca­tional values.

I travel to Jerusalem sev­eral times a week, and I will likely be return­ing to live there soon. I was walk­ing on the way to a pub with my girl­friend, a born-and-raised Jerusalemite, and we were speak­ing in Eng­lish. A man on the street walked up and tried to con­vince us to come to his bar. (There are dozens of such peo­ple in the city center’s streets who try to get English-speaking tourists to visit their restau­rant or bar.)

I waved him away and said, “We don’t need [your flier]” in Hebrew. His response? “Your accent sucks!” he yelled in Eng­lish. I was about to walk over and return the favor when my girl­friend stopped me and said, “Do NOT talk like that here!” Unfor­tu­nately, peo­ple have been assaulted there for less.

As I have writ­ten in my Let­ters from Israel series, the Jew­ish state is rife with polit­i­cal, reli­gious, and social divi­sions that many fear will tear the coun­try apart. This has led to increased anti-social behav­ior and the pos­si­ble destruc­tion of the civil soci­ety that had devel­oped since the refound­ing of Israel in 1948. Per­haps young Israelis have devel­oped the same pes­simism regard­ing the future that British youths and drunk girls there now have.

As a result of the geo­graphic iso­la­tion of the United States — it is sep­a­rated from the world by two, gigan­tic oceans — the coun­try is usu­ally the last to receive cul­tural trends from Europe (as well as tech­no­log­i­cal inno­va­tions from east­ern Asia). Since young peo­ple there are increas­ing angry and frus­trated over their eco­nomic and social con­di­tions, I won­der whether the same anti-social behav­ior will occur in Amer­ica soon.

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  • Jeff

    1) I’d say school shoot­ings and gang vio­lence are pretty anti-social actions.

    2) It couldn’t pos­si­bly be that Israeli cul­ture is so vio­lent because the State of Israel requires vio­lence to exist, could it?  (Quote)

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  • koyaanisqatsi

    The United King­dom is a polit­i­cal entity cre­ated through con­quest that has rarely, if ever, had a col­lec­tive sense of identity.”

    What con­quest? Who con­quered who? Please don’t just write what you THINK is his­tor­i­cally cor­rect in your insu­lar Amer­i­can brain. Find out the facts first. Hint: Why do you sup­pose it’s called the UNITED King­dom, and not, say, England?

    It was a con­fir­ma­tion of the global humil­i­a­tion that the British peo­ple have been feel­ing after cen­turies of power and influ­ence had disappeared.”

    This idea of dif­fer­ent peo­ples feel­ing humil­i­ated is a sta­ple of your writ­ing on “other” coun­tries and peo­ple. I won­der why you didn’t answer my ques­tion on that last time. I’ll repeat it here (bear in mind, the last time I asked it was in response to your remarks that the Arab nations were humil­i­ated by los­ing the 1967 war to tiny Israel.)

    Do you con­sider the Holo­caust to rep­re­sent a humil­i­a­tion for the Jew­ish peo­ple? I feel that it arguably rep­re­sents THE great­est humil­i­a­tion of a peo­ple, ever. I mean, accord­ing to your appar­ent notion of group humiliation.

    It is indeed pos­si­ble that Great Britain will cease to exist in the com­ing years. As the coun­try devolves, it might also lose sov­er­eignty to the Euro­pean Union and the euro.”

    What do you mean by “as the coun­try devolves”? Devo­lu­tion has already taken place. It’s not a process. Also, the coun­try can’t devolve. Only the gov­ern­men­tal power devolves.

    When the BBC, the standard-bearer of British jour­nal­ism, decides that a per­son like Grif­fin is suited to a seri­ous polit­i­cal dis­cus­sion, that is a clear indi­ca­tor of what a sig­nif­i­cant seg­ment of soci­ety is feeling.”

    No, it’s not. All it means is that the BBC are obey­ing the law by not dis­crim­i­nat­ing against a reg­is­tered polit­i­cal party that won a sig­nif­i­cant share of the Euro­pean Par­lia­ment vote in the last elec­tion. Grif­fin, being the leader of that party, IS suited to a seri­ous polit­i­cal dis­cus­sion, and is enti­tled to be heard on the BBC. Only a Nazi would believe otherwise.

    As some­one who has loved British cul­ture since he was a child, I write this post with extreme sadness.”

    No, you write it with extreme prej­u­dice, naivete, and very obvi­ous, if mis­guided, Schadenfreude.

    The British malaise”?
    ”…is it any won­der that they seem to have lost hope in the future”?
    “With­out any opti­mism, they turn to alco­hol and vio­lence out of nihilis­tic despair.”?

    Are you seri­ous? You’re talk­ing about a nation of 60 mil­lion peo­ple here. Very few of which are turn­ing to alco­hol and vio­lence out of nihilis­tic despair.

    Boy! a yel­low, tabloid blog! Now, I’ve seen every­thing.  (Quote)

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  • koyaanisqatsi

    I waved him away and said, “We don’t need [your flier]” in Hebrew. His response? “Your accent sucks!” he yelled in Eng­lish. I was about to walk over and return the favor when my girl­friend stopped me and said, “Do NOT talk like that here!” Unfor­tu­nately, peo­ple have been assaulted there for less.”

    Shocker: Amer­i­can goes to for­eign coun­try, causes trou­ble, blames native, and begins cam­paign of neg­a­tive propaganda.

    Tip: When in a for­eign coun­try, try using please and thank you, and gen­er­ally being pleas­ant when address­ing peo­ple.  (Quote)

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  • Sam Scott

    Jeff, you are cor­rect regard­ing gang vio­lence and school shoot­ings. Good point.

    But, the State of Israel requires vio­lence in self-defense to exist. That is dif­fer­ent.  (Quote)

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  • Sam Scott

    koy­aanisqatsi,

    Shocker: Amer­i­can goes to for­eign coun­try, causes trou­ble, blames native, and begins cam­paign of neg­a­tive propaganda.

    Tip: When in a for­eign coun­try, try using please and thank you, and gen­er­ally being pleas­ant when address­ing people.

    I am not a tourist. I am an Amer­i­can Israeli. I know the culture.

    As you may have read in other posts, Israel is not a polite coun­try to begin with. No one says “please” or “thank you.” Every­one is blunt and direct.

    http://samueljscott.com/2008/08/30/letter-from-israel-no-way-out-or-stuck-in-the-1970s/  (Quote)

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  • Sam Scott

    koy­aanisqatsi,

    What con­quest? Who con­quered who? Please don’t just write what you THINK is his­tor­i­cally cor­rect in your insu­lar Amer­i­can brain. Find out the facts first. Hint: Why do you sup­pose it’s called the UNITED King­dom, and not, say, England?

    It was united through con­quest. What, the kings of Scot­land, Wales, and Ire­land went to Lon­don and asked to be included in the empire?

    Do you con­sider the Holo­caust to rep­re­sent a humil­i­a­tion for the Jew­ish peo­ple? I feel that it arguably rep­re­sents THE great­est humil­i­a­tion of a peo­ple, ever. I mean, accord­ing to your appar­ent notion of group humiliation.

    Of course, the Holo­caust was a humil­i­a­tion for the Jew­ish peo­ple. It was even more so for Euro­pean Jewry, who gen­er­ally went like lambs to the slaugh­ter with­out try­ing to fight back.

    What do you mean by “as the coun­try devolves”? Devo­lu­tion has already taken place. It’s not a process. Also, the coun­try can’t devolve. Only the gov­ern­men­tal power devolves.

    I mean that the United King­dom may cease to exist, at least in its present form. It is pos­si­ble that the coun­try will offi­cially break apart into Eng­land, Scot­land, and Wales. (North­ern Ire­land is up in the air.) I believe cur­rent EU maps already divide Britain into sev­eral regional parts.

    No, it’s not. All it means is that the BBC are obey­ing the law by not dis­crim­i­nat­ing against a reg­is­tered polit­i­cal party that won a sig­nif­i­cant share of the Euro­pean Par­lia­ment vote in the last elec­tion. Grif­fin, being the leader of that party, IS suited to a seri­ous polit­i­cal dis­cus­sion, and is enti­tled to be heard on the BBC. Only a Nazi would believe otherwise.

    I highly doubt that the BBC was required to include the BNP on the show. Since you seem to be British, please feel free to point out the exact law. And you prob­a­bly know as well as I do that the Euro­pean Par­lia­ment is pow­er­less, and its elec­tions are largely sym­bolic. The Euro­pean Com­mis­sion, I believe, has the power.

    Are you seri­ous? You’re talk­ing about a nation of 60 mil­lion peo­ple here. Very few of which are turn­ing to alco­hol and vio­lence out of nihilis­tic despair.

    I specif­i­cally dis­cussed trends among the youth. And young peo­ple are the future of a coun­try.  (Quote)

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  • Jeff

    Doesn’t mat­ter to me how you jus­tify your vio­lence, the ends are the same.  (Quote)

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  • Sam Scott

    So can we agree to dis­agree based on the fact that I’m a Kant­ian and you’re a Util­i­tar­ian? :)   (Quote)

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  • koyaanisqatsi

    I am not a tourist. I am an Amer­i­can Israeli. I know the culture.”

    I didn’t say you were a tourist. I said you were a for­eigner. You are, and always will be. You will always oper­ate from an Amer­i­can mind­set. I say that’s not in your best inter­ests when in for­eign countries.

    As you may have read in other posts, Israel is not a polite coun­try to begin with. No one says “please” or “thank you.” Every­one is blunt and direct.”

    So, what was your point? That it’s nec­es­sary to pick one’s bat­tles on the streets of Jerusalem? A lit­tle redun­dant, no? I still say a “Thanks, we’ll check it out” would have ended the has­sle in the time it took to say it.  (Quote)

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  • koyaanisqatsi

    It was united through conquest. ”

    No, it wasn’t. That’s the sec­ond time I’ve had to tell you that.

    What, the kings of Scot­land, Wales, and Ire­land went to Lon­don and asked to be included in the empire?”

    First, it wasn’t an empire. It was a union of crowns and par­lia­ments. Sec­ond, yes, apart from “Wales” (it wasn’t really Wales until all the indi­vid­ual parts had been con­quered) being finally con­quered by Eng­land in 1282, with the fall of the King­dom of Gwynedd, all coun­tries entered into the unions voluntarily.

    You can read all about it on the fol­low­ing pages.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kingdom_of_Gwynedd#End_of_independence

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laws_in_Wales_Acts_1535%E2%80%931542

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Union_of_the_Crowns

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acts_of_Union_1707

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acts_of_Union_1800

    Basi­cally, Eng­land con­quered the King­dom of Gwynedd in 1282. Along with pre­vi­ously con­quered “Welsh” king­doms, it became known as the Prin­ci­pal­ity of Wales.

    By 1543, laws had been passed that offi­cially annexed Wales to England.

    In 1542, the Irish Par­lia­ment passed the Crown of Ire­land Act 1542, pro­claim­ing King Henry VIII of Eng­land to be King of Ireland.

    The Union of the Crowns (1603) was the acces­sion of James VI, King of Scots, to the throne of Eng­land, thus unit­ing Scot­land and Eng­land under one monarch, though they remained sep­a­rate states, with sep­a­rate Parliaments.

    In 1707, the Eng­lish and Scot­tish Par­lia­ments also united, form­ing the King­dom of Great Britain.

    In 1800, the twin Acts of Union for­mally united the King­dom of Great Britain and the King­dom of Ire­land to cre­ate the United King­dom of Great Britain and Ire­land. The union came into effect on 1 Jan­u­ary 1801.

    Again, do some research before mak­ing “fac­tual” state­ments. And cer­tainly before argu­ing with some­one who cor­rects you.

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    I mean that the United King­dom may cease to exist, at least in its present form. It is pos­si­ble that the coun­try will offi­cially break apart into Eng­land, Scot­land, and Wales. ”

    Yes, but that will involve all coun­tries, includ­ing Eng­land, becom­ing inde­pen­dent. It won’t rep­re­sent their “con­tin­u­ing to devolve”.

    I highly doubt that the BBC was required to include the BNP on the show. Since you seem to be British, please feel free to point out the exact law.”

    I don’t know the exact law off­hand, how­ever, in Britain, dis­crim­i­na­tion on the grounds of polit­i­cal affil­i­a­tion is pro­hib­ited by law. When the BNP was insignif­i­cant, it didn’t have to be given a pro­por­tional BBC plat­form. Now that it’s not, there is no excuse for its not being granted one. Nick Grif­fin didn’t have to be invited onto Ques­tion Time, per se, but to say he SHOULDN’T have been is dis­crim­i­na­tory. It’s some­thing a Nazi might say. You should know better.

    And you prob­a­bly know as well as I do that the Euro­pean Par­lia­ment is pow­er­less, and its elec­tions are largely sym­bolic. The Euro­pean Com­mis­sion, I believe, has the power.”

    It doesn’t mat­ter what you and I think, it was still an elec­tion and the British peo­ple voted in two BNP mem­bers as rep­re­sen­ta­tives. Those peo­ple must be rep­re­sented. The BBC must acknowl­edge that representation.

    I specif­i­cally dis­cussed trends among the youth. And young peo­ple are the future of a country.”

    Are you seri­ous? You’re talk­ing about a group of 10 mil­lion* young peo­ple here. Very few of which are turn­ing to alco­hol and vio­lence out of nihilis­tic despair.

    How can you make such a sweep­ing gen­er­al­i­sa­tion about a nation and its future, based on the behav­iour of a small num­ber of its citizens?

    * Esti­mate of the size of the the pop­u­la­tion aged between 16 and 25, who may be said to con­sti­tute the group you refer to.  (Quote)

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  • Sam Scott

    Thanks for the ref­er­ences; I’ll look at them as soon as I can.  (Quote)

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